Understanding Self-Compassion
Self-compassion is treating yourself with the kindness, care, and understanding that you would give to your close friend. Instead of criticizing yourself when making mistakes, use self-compassion to encourage yourself to embrace the imperfections you may have and respond to your own struggles with empathy.
How Self-Compassion Can Benefit Your Mental Health
Self-compassion is correlated to decreased anxiety, depression, and stress. Being kind to ourselves during troubled times will create emotional safety that allows us to emotionally manage setbacks and challenges. With self-compassion, comes resilience–helping us bounce back from difficult times without the typical self-judgment that often worsens mental health issues.
Simple Ways To Incorporate Self-Compassion
- Be Mindfully Aware: Recognizing moments of self-criticism and pausing to acknowledge instead of ruminating is always a good idea; take a breath and tell yourself that mistakes are part of being human.
- Positive Affirmations: Replace any negative thoughts and talk about yourself with positive, uplifting, supportive affirmations. For example, “I am doing my best, and it’s okay to make mistakes.”
- Self-Compassionate Touch: Gently place your hand on your heart and give yourself a hug whenever you feel overwhelmed or emotional flooding. Giving yourself a physical gesture can self-soothe your nervous system and ground you by connecting your emotional world to the physical world.
By simply practicing compassion for yourself, you improve your mental and emotional health, boost your self-esteem, and create a kinder, more forgiving relationship with yourself. When you are able to help yourself through compassion, you will be able to help others even more if they’re having trouble and need encouragement.
Dr. Barbara R. Edwards is an experienced Penn Medicine Princeton Health internist who has been practicing medicine for over 25 years. She is also the academic director of the Ambulatory Residency Program at Penn Medicine Princeton Health.